I Listen To Everyone, But I Decide
There are songs that say that life cannot be understood without a good coffee with friends, perhaps because the best conversations and the most useful advice arise around them. In fact, when I have to make an important decision, those coffees are pure energy: in them I listen and I let myself be heard, although in the end I always decide.
And who says a coffee says any moment of closeness to others, since the contact with the relationships we have benefits seriously emotional health and helps us manage complicated situations that we face on a daily basis .
In this sense, allowing our inner “I” to express what it feels to the people of its most appreciated social circle gives it different advantages, especially in circumstances of unease in which it feels truly confused: there are many difficult paths to take. They open up to our step and walking accompanied is gaining stability.
Hearing help to see what we do not see
The first great advantage of being listened to is, without a doubt, having the possibility of listening to another perspective : problems overwhelm us, pressure us and burden us with responsibility, so a look that does not feel like ours can contribute to clearing up unknowns about.
Imagine that you are currently working and that, to some extent, you feel comfortable with what you do. However, there are a few reasons why you would abandon him, such as being closer to your family. In that situation, they offer you another job that has nothing to do with your domain but would allow you to be next to yours. What decision do you make?
It is very difficult to be in the center of all this and understand what one decision or another entails. For that reason we go to those who are always there and what we say about them that they know how to heal: they will give us their perspective, they will let us see other pros and cons that we do not see from a particular position and, in the end, we will decide.
In individual decision there is also external force
In every decision, there is a probability of a mistake -not an error-, since risking a change also means being able to lose something and that is a condition that we are forced to accept. Consequently, here it is: the more cloudy a problem makes us, the more we will need the strength and wisdom of others.
How many times have we wanted someone to listen to us when deep down we were only looking for the strength that we lacked to make a decision? I decide, yes, but sometimes I need a push, a hug, a few words of support: to think that whatever happens there will be someone else there.
That is, in an individual decision there is also force outside because their loving advice reminds us that above all they love us and only try to help us achieve the best for us.
I decide because the results are for me
The truth is that the background of the premise “I listen to everyone, but I decide” is a reality in which the decisions of one’s life can depend on many people, but its consequences fall only on us.
It is absolutely beneficial, as we have stated, to let others give us their point of view about the options, but we are the exclusive owners of the acts that we carry out: nobody will be responsible for something that only affects you, nobody will assume mistakes of your decisions and no one will bear the burden of the chosen path.
So, with this in mind, do not refuse to listen even though you may not agree with what they tell you or come to think that they are not opinions made with kindness. It is good to open your mind to those other looks, as long as you are able not to lose yours completely : you know what you need and how you need it, only you can live your way, decide for you, act for you.
