If Someone Doesn’t Like You, They Always Have The Option Of Leaving

If someone doesn’t like you, if they don’t like you, don’t look at you if they want to, move away if that’s what they want. You are not here to please anyone or to tolerate the intolerable. Always choose the quiet distance to false hypocrisy.

Experts in the so-called interpersonal psychology (in charge of studying the links of people with their closest social contexts) tell us that, on average, of all the people we meet in a day, 10% of them do not we would be pleased in case of knowing them. Namely: they would not fit into our personal maps or the puzzle of our life.

As throughout our days we carry out small routines of “personal hygiene” to maintain health and have a good image, it is necessary that we also begin to practice what is known as “mental hygiene”. One of his first postulates is as simple as it is essential: don’t try to make everyone like you. It is a really useless source of suffering.

Now, not liking it does not imply that we must react with categorical or severe character by marking territory. After all, living together shouldn’t be that complicated. It is based only on “being” and “letting be”. In “don’t do to me what you don’t want for yourself.”

We have to be skilled architects of that respectful and constructive sincerity where no one is harmed. Wherever that false hypocrisy that we all see every day in our closest contexts is never again resorted to.

We suggest you reflect on it.

When the people you care about don’t like you

The liking or not liking certain people sometimes, we do not care. This is so because there is no significant link, because there is no emotional attribution to that particular individual. Now, the most complex thing comes when we realize that we do not like or fit in with relevant figures who are very close to us.

There are moments of life that are as bitter as they are complex. Consider an adolescent or young person just entering adulthood, who is fully aware that their way of being, thoughts and values ​​do not match those of their parents. At the same time, it is also painful to perceive that we do not like someone who attracts us. That we lack that “spark” with which to generate a complicity, an attraction, an intimacy.

In the event that today we are experiencing these situations, it is necessary that we approach it as follows.

• What others think about us should never be more important than what we think about ourselves. Don’t let your self-esteem be sustained by any kind of hierarchy. If your family does not like your character, the root of the real problem is they, not you. So don’t do it, don’t get away from your essences, from what defines you, from what offers you light, life and character.

Another aspect to take into account is the constant search for approval that many people need from their surroundings to feel that they are really “worth something.” Never let yourself be carried away by this dangerous current. The words of others do not define you, your self-love defines you. 

• We need to clearly know who we are, what defines us, and what reasons we have to be proud of ourselves. In addition, it is advisable to grant us the full right to be imperfect.

• What others think or say should never be above your own beliefs, expectations or values.

• You must be able to practice being honest with yourself. Understand that if someone does not like you, do not force the impossible or settle for false “crumbs.” The affection or forced love is useless, it is not useful, it is poison.

So remember, it is not in our hands or our obligation to like everyone by force.  If someone does not respect you as you are, it is because they do not love you as you deserve.

Don’t do it, don’t allow these behaviors. In the short term they are suffocating and in the long term destructive. In fact, hypocrite derives from “hypokrisis” , which means to pretend, act or speak with masks. For his part, and as a fact to take into account, Noam Chomsky, linguist and social analyst, said that hypocrisy is actually one of the worst evils in our society.

Taken or applied to more complex spheres, it is capable of promoting injustices, such as inequalities, war and all kinds of violations in this perverse framework of deception. It is not the right thing to do. You have to break this habit and drop the masks to live with greater integrity, with greater respect.

If we do not like something or it seems an injustice, we must not lower our heads and give in because others expect it. If someone doesn’t like you, let them walk away, leave if they want to, but don’t perform the ritual dance of falsehood. That they do not bring you clouds of hypocrisy when you defend the clarity of worthy hearts, and of course, respectful ones.