Love Yourself And Let Yourself Be Loved

Pleasures should be placed in life, the same as you eat them in a sentence. It is essential to do things that we like, to take advantage of those opportunities that are presented to us without thinking too much, without expectations, simply with the will to live and to squeeze out life, therefore, love yourself and let yourself be loved.

Loving each other is complicated but it is something essential for others to love us. Therefore, love yourself, fall in love with your body, with your defects, with your virtues, with everything that you are passionate about, with the way you smile and walk through life.

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Loving yourself is essential to feel good, for other people to love us, to enjoy and be happy. Sometimes it is complicated because we criticize ourselves and we can become our own worst enemy.

Self-esteem is the evaluative perception of ourselves, that is, how we see and value ourselves and has four fundamental elements according to the Argentine psychologist Walter Riso, which are the following:

• Self-concept – What do you think of yourself.
• Self-image – How much you like yourself.
• Self-reinforcement – How much you reward yourself.
• Self-efficacy – How confident are you in yourself.

To reinforce these four elements of self-esteem and live in peace with ourselves and happier, we propose some simple actions so that you learn to love yourself and know how to appreciate all the good that is in you.

Don’t compare yourself

From adolescence we begin a detailed analysis of our physique, pore by pore, and the result is that something is always missing or excess. We criticize our hair color, our legs, our teeth. We will try very hard to find our flaws. We will also compare ourselves with others, who we consider more handsome, and we will feel bad.

The comparisons are negative, because the concept of beauty is very different from one person to another, it is a totally subjective concept. What we can consider beautiful, another person can consider ugly and vice versa. Therefore, the comparison is useless.

Discover and highlight the things you like about yourself, dress how you like it, not how others expect you to dress, if you feel good, that’s what matters. There will always be someone more handsome or uglier than you, but what does it matter, you have unique qualities that nobody has, discover them and enhance them.

Invent your own concept of beauty

The concept of beauty is not only subjective but also depends a lot on each era. For example, years ago a plump, white woman with pink lips was considered a beauty, while today’s canon of beauty is radically different.

Therefore, the best thing is to build your own concept of beauty. In this sense, Walter Riso, argues that the healthiest premise is the following:

“You can decide your own concept of beauty. It is not easy, but it is worth a try. Just as to dress well you should not docilely follow fashion and be uniform, to like yourself or yourself you do not have to use external concepts. You do not have to look like anyone in particular, nor are there theoretical and scientific reasons that justify the superiority of one form of beauty over another. The important thing, therefore, is not to be beautiful or beautiful, but to like oneself. “

Reward yourself

When our partner does not care about us, does not ask us how we are, does not call us, does not care about us, it is difficult for us to interpret that there is love in that relationship.

In the same sense, if you do not reward yourself, if you do not dedicate time, if you do not express affection, your self-esteem will be null or insufficient. Self-love, in principle, is not very different from loving other people. Love yourself

Therefore, take care of your body and your mind, do things that you like and that give you pleasure. Smile and go out there to share your smile. If you like going to the movies, go away, if you like to ride a bike, ride, if you like to read, buy books and read them. Love yourself

Eliminate repressive beliefs

According to Walter Riso, there are four repressive beliefs that prevent us from reinforcing our self-esteem:

• The cult of habituation. It is about the cult of a series of behaviors that are considered the usual ones and those that we all must have, but that kind of behavior will not allow us to innovate or change.
• The cult of rationalization. It will lead us to be like robots, simply used to evaluating feelings to see if they are appropriate. There are things that are not made to think but to vibrate with them.
• The cult of self-control. It is about controlling all feelings and emotions. Of course, a balanced self-control is necessary to avoid destructive behaviors, but we must move away from the absolute containment of feelings and emotions.
• The cult of modesty. It will lead you to not value your successes or your efforts. It is not about bragging about our achievements, but about recognizing our potential, without excuses or blame, to be able to be realistic and see your qualities and know how to appreciate your efforts.

Let yourself be loved

In today’s society, everything goes too fast, we are all very independent, but we need to stop for a moment and let ourselves be loved. If you feel bad let someone listen to you, take care of you. If there is something that worries you, share it and let them hug and kiss you. Feel the affection of each gesture, of each look, let yourself be loved.