You Don’t Owe Explanations To Anyone, You Are Accountable To Yourself

Sometimes we adopt the judicial method for ourselves. We are the vigilantes of our mind, subjecting it to continuous scrutiny and judgment, demanding explanations. Not happy with that, in most cases we offer the possibility that other people evaluate or judge us, with the risk that their opinions or judgments are totally unfortunate.

You should not look outside for explanations and answers that only you can give yourself, in an intimate and calm way. Those who pay more attention to what they say they lack, is far from knowing what they need. The truth is that pure souls and busy minds do not have the time or desire to get into anyone’s life and confident people do not allow anyone to do so.

You must be accountable to yourself but not in an inquisitive way, but in an open and frank way. Only each of us knows the reason for each of our actions, decisions, joys and suffering. They are at the level of the subjective, of the intimate, of what only we know about ourselves.

Our life, our own explanations

Sometimes we tell ourselves that others in our same situation would have acted in the same way, but that in reality is unfounded and unimportant. Comparison with the rest of the world is useless if what we are really looking for is inner peace and not social approval.

We have to try to make our hearts help the complicated task that our memory has of emotionally integrating what we have experienced throughout our lives. Avoid looking for coherence in everything we have done, putting a label on it, to choose to discover if our actions reveal the search for a reason, a feeling, a desire or the desire to avoid failure, criticism or pain.

Sometimes our story has multiple interpretations and unknowns, but it always has a common denominator: overcome fears, free ourselves from layers, swim against the current of our traumas and ghosts, seek love, avoid loneliness.

If life is not always coherent and fair, what do we do by asking it for so many explanations. The others are not either, so only our own reflection is worth it. Explanations have to come from me if they help me to explain something that has always disturbed me. My own questions with my own answers.

Sometimes disappointments, caused by what we were not quite before, are the engine that guides us to be what we always wanted: someone brave who fights for what he wants, who risks without fear of losing and with the certainty that what you bet is worth no less than what you want.

If the opinions of others do not define you, do not continue to place more value on them than your own actions. There is no age to start from scratch, nor is there a number of regulatory falls that prevent us from moving forward. It does not matter how long you have been wandering around, if in the end you have ended up visualizing what you want for yourself. Do not be so accountable in front of others and pay more in what you are passionate about. Your life and that of those who love you will end up thanking you.